Friday, August 23, 2013

Why Voice #14 - How voice lessons make you a better listener

A voice and speech student came into a lesson today and proclaimed that not only did he now speak more with other people, but also he now felt he could actually connect better to people and better understand not only the words they were saying, but also the meaning behind their words. 

I want to talk a little bit about why the statement didn't surprise me. When you work with your voice you should be spending a lot of time listening. Listening to how other people sound, if it is speech as it was in this case, you listen to people and try to figure out what you like about their voice? Are they making the sounds right or wrong? Do they have tention in jaw and tongue? Is breath flowing freely? Do I want to sound like this? Does their voice give them authority or not? And an array of other things you learn to listen for because I in your lessons, make you listen to your own voice in this maner. It's not about judging, but more a matter of curiosity. Think of yourself as a scientist trying to figure out the mechanisms of the human voice - maybe (hopefully) you will remove some judgement from the sound of your own voice...which actually will make you a better voice user on its own, nice right?!

In terms of the singing voice the principles are the same except you listen to music and more specifically, singers instead. Which singers do you like? What sounds do they make? Can I imitate what they do? What is the quality of their voice like? What do I like about it? What do I dislike about it? And so on....
I might seem like the simplest thing - and subconsciously you are already doing this - but if you can bring it to your conscious learning you will improve your own voice so much faster...
Is it fun? I don't know, but if you are one of those people who doesn't like the singing of scale after scale vocalizing from dusk till dawn, it sure beats that approach:-)....all you have to do is listen, maybe test it on your own voice and listen some more....then you come to your lesson and maybe I can answer a question you have - or maybe ask another one...

Being a great listener is rule number one of being a good voice user - it's as simple as that!

 

Sunday, August 4, 2013

Why Voice #13 - The Constant Experiment

"All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better". (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

Today I wanna share with you why I have the best job in the world....or at least why think it is:-)
As I have mentioned a few times already in this blog; singing is a new thing everyday. As you get better the level of consistency gets better, but really just like you body feels slightly different every day, so does your voice. I didn't use to think that it was a gift - more like a curse in fact, but now that I teach and thus am "forced" to sing and make others do it for hours on end, it has become an absolute blessing.

Teaching in it self is one long experiment. My students teach me something new about the voice and how individually we perceive it, almost every day! The constant experiment means that I am never bored, always challenged and hopefully my students are too in our common search for greater mastery of our common, yet individual instrument. We all have one - a voice - and more or less we all use it, but we are all utterly unique in doing so. The voice is like a fingerprint that you can fiddle with, but somehow it still remains totally and completely, singularly yours. No one can ever steal or have your instrument ever! But it can be destroyed...something I have experienced first hand, and on some of the clients that I work with that have damaged voices - it's another matter all together. Building your voice back, finding it again, is like looking for your souls fingerprint in a sense, and can needless to say, be a difficult endeavor, but I believe never an impossible one. As a matter of fact I am the singing example of how a voice can be rebuild, rediscovered and re-found:-)

The voice has an outstanding ability to make us feel special and unique and yet somehow still connected to the whole - that is what I spend my life experimenting with and that my friends is pure unadulterated fun!


Monday, July 15, 2013

Why Voice #12 - Grit

Today I watched a TED talk that confirmed what I have known for years and which is proven to me every day with my students and clients in the process of getting the voice they want.
 
Basically all research on who becomes successful show that the one thing that is most important to have to become successful is....GRIT, meaning as Angela Lee Duckworth put it in the TED Talk; looking at life as a marathon not a sprit by having stamina and perseverance. It is actually not about IQ, talent, social intelligence or income, but about whether you keep at it. 
Unfortunately there is very little knowledge on how you get this grit, or how you motivate someone to have it and she does acknowledge that as a great issue, one route that her research has shown though is, that when you show a kid pictures of the brain and how it is used during different tasks, and that you can learn and change one little step at a time, their chances of getting grit is higher. That when we believe in change and perseverance and not that IQ or other factors decide our fate we CAN succeed, if we work at it.
From where I sit with my instrument and what playing it has taught me about life, I will dare to say that one way of teaching and motivating kids and adults to have grit, is to teach them how to play an instument - anyone will do. Knowing that practice will make you better at something IS grit. And the cool thing is that it might even be fun and maybe even spead a little joy:-)

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Why Voice #11 - Balance

It seems to me that one of the great issues of how to get the voice you want rather than the one you think you were given, has a lot to do with balance.

Most of my clients come to me wanting to sound like Adele, Alicia Keys, Pink and other big names from the current popular music scene, and I enjoy teaching them that so we end up having a lot if fun imitating some if the great artists out there - time spent trying to figure out how the stars make different sounds is really fun! 

Clients will however usually already have a strategy in place for making the sound which may be close or not, but none the less EVERYONE that comes in already think that they have done all they can to sound like whomever they like, and that their particular voice just can't do any more.

This is where I come into the picture. I don't know why this is, but usually the client will have picked one or two aspects of the voice to copy and imitate (usually the one that comes easy), and will have neglected the "other" aspects. For example; in singing Alicia Keys the bottom notes and the darker quality of her sound is well developed, and the higher more cry like sounds completely neglected. Either this happens because the singer doesn't hear that in the sound, or there is some kind of resistance toward that part of the sound (more often than not from the idea that the sound is "ugly") So the balance is off from the get go because the client is only imitating parts of the sound, and neglecting other parts that they usually subconsciously find ugly, or have other reasons to block out.  
As I start picking apart the voice, as the voice mechanic that I am, to work on the different aspects of the voice separately, a different awareness of the sound quality is established and the balance between the different parts is restored, or obtained. After all parts are picked apart, polished and perfected and we put it back together again, something amazing happens.
It's a fantastic thing to witness when a client after many a struggle finally gets the balance right and sounds so much more like themselves, the BEST version that is. Without even knowing it - in an attempt to sound like someone else - they end up finding their OWN best voice and it is always an amazing discovery for them - and for me.

My challenge to all the singers out there who are having fun figuring out how to sound like their favorite artist. Listen to them again and try to see if you can hear a new different aspect of their voice - a different side that you didn't notice before - then try to imitate them again and you might have learned something new...about the artist and about your self.
  

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Why Voice? #10 - Inspiration - where does it come from?

To those few whom I have not already informed of my latest project - my very own album, with my very own music, at this point in time named "A North Node"... well, thats it, now everyone should be informed. 
I am very excited about the whole thing so therefore probably most everybody are informed already as I simply can't seem to shut up about the whole thing, and thus I am bringing it on to my blog about voice. And there are some great discoveries to be had about the voice in a recording studio.

At this stage of album making it's all about patience as far as I can tell. I have the songs, I know how I want it to sound, and then you have to somehow get it down on some tracks in the studio which is highly time consuming and rather mind-bogging as you can do some really surreal things to your "sound" in the studio.
One thing you discover about your voice - usually very quickly - is that it isn't doing what you want it to do. Not unlike a performance situation, being in the studio can be nerve racking and everything you thought you knew how to do in your sleep, is now the hardest thing in the world. It doesn't help to tell yourself that you can just do it again - somehow that actually makes it worse - I am no expert on the psycology behind this phenomena, but I like to say to my students that it's about being scared of your own excitement and potential (now I try to tell myself the same thing:-). Too many options and too much joy (yes, I know it sounds crazy) it's sort of like tears of joy, a really, really, weird, good feeling of overwhelm, can mess you up as well as anything.
Song is to a large degree about controlling or managing your breath flow. When we are excited or scared or in otherways emotionally on a high note, that becomes a really hard thing to do, also in a recording studio even if you can "always just do it again". 
Going to the studio certainly makes you aware of your shortcomings and your greatness too, and can be a great learning experience even if you are not going to release an album and just want to challenge yourself.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Why Voice #9 - a little bit about lyrics...

There are probably as many approaches to how to work on the lyrics of a song as there are teachers, coaches and artist out there, and so I thought maybe it was time I wrote down some of my thoughts on the subject. In this particular part of my musicianship and wearing my teacher hat I turn to my actor self because as an actor you deal with this thing with putting meaning into words all the time.
That approach means questions like; Who are you talking to? what would you like to change in that person(s) with these words? And what are your tactics to do it? what is the circumstance? can you relate to this circumstance? (and if not change them to circumstances you can commit to). Why is it import for you to to say this? Where are you? Is there an obstacle? And so on.....

But even when having asked yourself all these questions and hundreds more and think you are clear on it all, you might still run into the biggest trap of them all when it comes to art. You will attempt to "express" yourself and forget that its not about you and/or your pain, sorrow or joy, but about what you are trying to achieve with your song and lyrics.

The reason why I try to stay away from the word "express" is that is seems to indicate that its a one way street - that it is not about communication, but only about how YOU feel somehow. That is however not what communication is....makes me think of that Dolly Parton song...."it takes two baby....lalalala" :-) communication which art in my opinion is all about, is about you taking something in - letting it affect you - and than expressing how that somehow changed you (mind, body or soul) But it starts with taking in, not letting out, not disappearing in your own pain. No, you need a mission to fulfill with that song so it doesn't all become about you expressing how you feel, save that for therapy:-)
Don't get me wrong I want to know how you feel and hear it in the song, but only if you are on a mission to change something in someone/somebody/something - not just feeling sorry for yourself.
Those are my two cents on how to approach lyrics :-)

Friday, April 5, 2013

Why Voice #8 - Breath

One of my lovely teachers (wonderful and missed; Ian Adam), back when I was a fresh faced young singer just discovering what it was all about, would always start out the lesson by simply saying "Lets breathe". And so we would.
We would pant and breathe and do all these rather crazy looking exercises, and I never really payed much attention, I was young and foolish, nor did I really get what he was trying to teach me, but the pure practice of it was enough to somehow make me better.

One of the main things that suffered most when I went from being a classically inspired singer to a contemporary inspired singer over a decade ago, was my breath management. My whole idea of breath in singing somehow was changed - BIG mistake, but one that I have since corrected and thus feel extra vigilant about correcting the misconception of when I see/hear them in my studio.
If there is something that singing teachers can discuss to death it is; what perfect breath management is - and how to obtain it. I love when I have students that come to me saying they want to learn how to breathe the right way, it's like asking for the answer to an impossible ridle. The right way is....just not that simple, however once you got it and your body has adapted the habit it does seem like the simplest thing in the world to people looking at it. Nobody questions the amount of training that goes into a ballet dancers perfect triple pirouette, yet done well, it looks so easy and simple. Breath management in singing seems to me like the same thing (though I never mastered the triple pirouette:-) It requires strength, balance, momentum and focus and to get that you must practice it a billion times and fall on your ass a few times too...
In my breath training we train all these aspects separately and together, and though I know it is confusing to many of my students - they are very happy when they get it :-) and sometimes wonder why they ever found it so difficult in the first place....well, that is just the magic of it all.
So "lets breathe"...

Friday, March 22, 2013

Why Voice #7 - The beauty of an open voice, body and mind

Last week I had the pleasure of teaching an acting workshop for a group of 25 18-22 year olds and it was truly inspiring.
When you are an aspiring actor/artist it seems like you have a thousand questions with no answers, and the chaos of dealing with that uncertainty takes heaps and heaps of courage.
I salute you for daring to show up with all that you are - it makes me think of this great quote and let that be the blog this week as an after thought of what happens to you after you have reconnected with yourself.

Our Greatest Fear by Marianne Williamson:

it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other

people won't feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

—Marianne Williamson

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Why Voice #6 - other misconceptions...

These are the 5 most common misconceptions about singing that I meet while teaching or just discussing it with my fellow man

1. It's not a learned skill.
You would maybe be surprised at the amount of people who, when I say I am a voice teacher say; "oh, really, I can't sing, but I wish, I could". I don't know if piano teachers and guitar teachers or flute teachers hear the same thing, but I image they might hear something more along the lines of "oh, really, I once tried to learn, but I never practiced so I am not very good at it". I don't know why people don't think of singing as a learned skill just like leaning how to play any other instrument - but it is! If you practice and get guidance from a qualified teacher you get better just like most things in life.

2. If I just had more air I would sing better.
Well, this is a tricky one because it could be true if you are a very experienced singer and wanted to sing more Wagner (but then you probably would not make that statement:-) For the general beginner this is not true. Breath training unless you are training for a specific genre is not about capacity, but about management, more capacity - requires better management, so when you just start learning about breath and how it works with the voice, it is more about learning how to manage the air you have than increasing the amount. Sort of like having a budget account at the bank, its not about making more money, but about living within your means :-)

3. I need to learn how to sing from/with my diaphragm
This always makes me smile, because that is one of those things people say and have no idea what they are taking about. Of all the things you try to control while singing your diaphragm is not one of them, it is controlled by the involuntary nervous-system and mostly the training of it consists of learning how to leave it alone and not get in its way. There are other muscle groups in your torso that you can train however - to help create a steady breath flow to support voice use of all kinds, but the diaphragm is not one of them.

4. If I was a better singer I would be famous.
With the danger of making myself unemployed by saying this - it doesn't work that way! There are thousands and thousands of absolutely GREAT singers in the world who are NOT famous and maybe not even making a living using their voice at all, so I think it is safe to say that becoming famous is not a matter of skill. First thing that is off in that sentence is BETTER - what does that mean and who decides that? The people on the panel in X-factor? Well, I couldn't tell you even if I wanted to. The only thing I do know is that you should become a "better" singer in your own opinion first - because YOU want to, and LOVE doing it. When YOU think you are "good enough" start pursuing a career - only if you can live with an artists lifestyle and all it's insecurities - then cross your fingers to win the lottery and become famous. Having a higher skill level is maybe the equivalent of actually buying a lottery ticket:-)

5. I don't have a good voice
Again, who decides that? Compared to what? Do you think that is why Tom Waits sings? Does people really care about "good" or is it about something else entirely and are you missing the point when you say you don't have a good voice? I am currently reading "The World in Six Songs: How The Musical Brain Created Human Nature" by Daniel J. Levitin and he talks about how humans are the only species on the planet that creates art, and how music specifically is an art form that combines both absolute and relational processing in our brain, meaning we both hear the absolute pitch and its relationship to other pitches at the same time. To our knowledge no other species on the planet can do this. We as in the human rase can't stop making art, of all forms, because we have used our ability to think in both absolute and relational ways to survive as a species. I want to recommend this book as a way of answering why it doesn't matter whether you have a "good" voice or not - but rather that you have one and are willing to use it!

Friday, March 8, 2013

Why Voice #5 - The world of acoustics.....

Okay, I admit it! I have a new obsession - sometimes I almost feel sorry for my students who are submitted to these things - you probably already guessed it - acoustics!!!! My physics teacher back at Morso Gymnasium, Denmark will be thinking he did something right in having me drill all those silly rules for how sound travels, but they're sure coming in handy now.

In singing we talk a lot about vowels and their placement for optimal resonance - or maybe just a desired resonance. In speech and accent reduction we also talk a lot about vowels and their placement simply to fit the criteria of whatever accent we are trying to convey.
I often run into the belief, one that I actually think most people have, that you just have one "sound" to your language or your voice and then all you can do is make the best of it. That is however, pretty far from the truth, and I will make the rather farfetched assumption; that if you can imagine that your voice can sound differently - you can make it sound differently. The thing is that language and vowels in reality are nothing but the same acoustic phenomenons that are simple enough, that really we can all make them, if we can make the needed changes to our vocal tract (imagine if we couldn't - language would not exist) also remember that we are born into this world without a language, or if you like with the potential to speak any language. What makes changing the patterns of your vocal tract difficult is usually - habit. Change is hard (I seem to mention this a lot in this blog) especially if you don't really think it is possible, but here is the great thing about it. IF you can imagine that change, you can train your muscles, jaw, tongue etc that make up the individual parts of the vocal tract, and you can sound just the way you like by following some pretty simple acoustic rules - and some persistent training of course:-)

I make it sound very easy don't I? - my students hate me for this too:-) but the thing is, we like to think singing is something just for the selected few who have a "nice" voice - and granted you can't change the size of your scull and the other parts of your instrument which consists of flesh and bone, but when that is said you have an unlimited amount of options for how you want to "sound".

So why is it not as simply as I like to make it sound (no pun intended) Because we use our voice to be unique, to stand out AND to feel like we are a part of something (hence the invention of language if you are not a Biblical fanatic and think it all happened in Babel way back when:-)
The voice is a HUGE part of how we see ourselves and how we want others to perceive us and language as a result is a big part of who we are. I think, we can all agree on; that it is a difficult thing when people start messing with our individuality one that we have carefully selected (probably unconsciously) through years of conditioning, cultivation, trial and error.

Why bother then one might ask? Well, why not, isn't it nice to be understood? To express who you are? Are you maybe not understood because your acoustics are a mess and you think your sending all these signals about who you are, when in reality they are being perceived differently by others?
In any case it doesn't matter why we bother. I salute anyone who looks change in the eye and goes for it in pursuit of a better life, a happier existence and a better world.

PS. The acoustic obsession will probably pass, so dear students don't worry:-)
One extra bonus I got from my little obsession is that I remembered how much I used to LOVE this voice and try to make my own voice sound like this one, because I thought it was the most beautiful thing I had ever heard - glad to remember forgotten passions:-)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gKZa6hNFouw
This is from the memorial ceremony in Norway for the victims of Anders Behring Breivik - July 22nd, 2011

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Why Voice #4 - Singing builds community?

"Do you hear the people sing, singing a song of angry men, it is the music of a people who will not be slaves again....." Les Miserable.

Actually no, I don't hear the people sing, I don't hear collective voices raised in unity to change something - or even to keep something.

These days most of the community building of singing consists of watching and listening to other people sing on TV in some talent show like X-factor or American Idol, but singing used to be for everyone regardless of whether you had star quality or not - something I for one wish was still the case.

I grew up in a singing culture, in a family full of good singers none of whom where professionals, but where the term "every bird sings with its own beak" (granted the translation is not that great) was an accepted fact. Singing was/is not about being "good at it", but about being apart of something, about participating - not watching from the sidelines. You learn to sing from a young age to stimulate you learning to speak the difficult phonetic language that Danish is, and to stimulate creative structure and social behavior. In my school from the age of six every morning the whole school gathered to sing a song for community building and to keep traditional culture and history alive. These days people can only get into the spirit of this when they are drunk and sing along to some tune in a bar (which granted is also fun!) The culture of; singing because its good for you, stimulates you and and gives you the feeling of belonging to and participating in something, is long gone. It is all about being good at singing - and I am all for good singers, but really that is not what singing is about at all, if you ask me.

There has been many a study on the benefits of music on our general health and singing in particular, and all experts agree that it's good for you. It increases blood circulation, increase endorphins, increase oxygen in the blood, reduces stress, helps depression, exercises the brain in creative ways and generally spreads joy inside and out.
I love when I get students in my classroom saying they can't sing - "so what", I say, "lets change that!" It's not some permanent state, maybe you are not going to be the next superstar, but by God you should not be robed of the satisfaction and empowerment that knowing how to use your voice is. I had a singing teacher who said; we come into this world singing and we should just never stop. I agree with him. Life is too short to not be able to have the joy of singing in our lives. Bring singing back as a community sport and forget about X-factor....forget about being "good" at it - participate, and just - sing!

Saturday, February 9, 2013

Why Voice #3 - 5 reasons why Practicing is hard...

Practicing is different to everyone, it's and individual pursuit and no matter what - it all comes back to you. There is no one to blame but you for not doing it, not getting any better or worse still - not getting IT at all.

1. Every time you start your practice, you're different and you have to adjust to where you are at today. It's not like brushing your teeth, you can't turn on the autopilot and expect to get better.
2. You have to be able to face defeat. When you practice you run into things you can't do as well as you would like, so you have to have the courage to face that in every practice. Also you might not be able to do today what you were able to do yesterday - and that just sucks!
3. Your going to be noisy and everyone will hate you for it - or maybe just ridicule you which, if you are like me is actually worse.
4. You have no one there (except maybe me on an old recording if you study with me:-) to cheer you on, you have to become your own best and worst critic, which is hard no matter what it is about - let alone something like your voice that is so closely connected to your identity and your feeling of self.
5. It's time consuming and we all know it is easier, more comfortable and requires less of you to turn on the TV and let 2-3 hours go by doing nothing - except maybe eat

So why do it at all when it's really so annoyingly hard? Because in the end when you have done your practice, overcome your fears, faced your defeat, pissed some people off, had the courage to stand up to yourself and ask yourself if maybe there is a better version of yourself in there - the answer is always YES and that is all the reward you need. Self worth funny enough do not come from other peoples opinion of us, but our opinion of our selves and you will only find that when you test what your worth and judge for your self. I practice voice, but really it could be anything that requires a complex set of circumstances to work in perfect harmony. Don't just take my word for it. Turn the TV off and try it!

Why Voice #2 - About Practice

Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit."- Aristotle

What does it mean to practice? I am asked this question often, or actually most of my students don't ask they just don't do it:-) at least not continuously, but I understand, it's not as easy as it might seem. In my experience (including my own perspective on the word until I somehow changed my mind while becoming an actor) we think practice means to do something over and over again until we somehow mysteriously get it right. What I call the myth of hard work. With that I am not trying to say that there isn't something great to be gained from hard work, but what you are probably mostly gaining is persistence. However, are you actually getting any better? Achieving any of the things you want? Happier, richer and better looking? I bet you the answer is probably, hell no! And you're probably miserable too, 'cause you just don't seem to be getting it right?! When you keep running your head against the same wall over and over do you eventually break the wall or does the wall break you?

Practice is in reality not about trying to perfect something or getting it right by doing the same thing over and over and over and over, just because I have told you some cool vocal exercise ....if you keep repeating an unwanted habit it is not going to change, all that happens is that you eventually give up. So then what do you do? The answer is maybe a little too simple to live with - you don't do the same thing over and over, you keep making mistakes, experiment, take risks, do something different, keep searching....and here is the point - with mindfulness and focus (or as you might say - on purpose), then when something DOES seem to work, you do it over and over until its effortless, and then you find another issue and you do the same again, and so you keep on perfecting your instrument until the day you die. To my own big surprise this unending practice was actually the best discovery of them all - you mean I will never finish or be perfect? Hell no - Thank God!

To practice is to courageously, and with persistence figuring out what is right and then repeating it until it is habit....to go back to Aristotle. We are the things we repeatedly do. So only repeat the things you know are right, if they don't feel right, try something else, until it does.....then start repeating and be happier, richer and better looking:)

Next week: Practicing is hard because...

Thursday, February 7, 2013

Why Voice #1

- a blog about voice philosophy and other voice related issues...
To start of in a grandiose fashion; None other than president Obama inspired me to start this blog about the philosophy of voice, how so you might ask? Because he himself has great gifts for rhetoric? Because he speaks so eloquently directly from his heart?
No, because he always talks about how "we the people" are connected by the commen denominator of wanting to do good in this world (by the way the cynic in me says that is not always true:-)
Anyway, after I had spent my day teaching some folks how to sing and speak, I thought, how does that make the world a better place? And well, I actually ended up thinking about this in such a way that it can only be thought of as philosophy.
Imagine for a second that you couldn't speak, some of you might have tried it due to a doctor ordering you to vocal rest for a periode of a few days, or laryngitis or some other short term voice loss circumstance - I myself did it for 10 days following my voice surgery in 2005. If that is a stretch and a little too hard to imagine, try imagining being in a foreign country unable to speak the language, it's almost the same - though chances are you can still make noises and eventually you will learn how to communicate dispite the language barrier, hell, you might even just learn the language:)
It's harder than one might think, right? Communication is hard without a voice, even harder without a voice that actually portraits how we think and feel, and without help from music or language. We maybe think that our voice is only used to express our individual thoughts and feelings, but anyone who has ever sung in a choir or joined in on the national anthem with a large group of people, or sat in a pew at church also knows, that it isn't just an individual communication device, it is also a community builder, our voice also connects us to the collective in a stronger fashion than any other.
So we know being able to use our voice is important....however, most us don't know how to, and I think my task as a member of "we the people" is to change that:-)
My wish is that we will move away from the right and wrong of voice and simply start talking about using it - the "I can't sing" or "I'm tone death" or "I don't know how to tell them how I feel" followed by "they don't understand me", will in my world where "we the people" live - disappear (again my inner cynic is shaking her head:-)
Using our voice, communication in all forms, takes practice. So lets start practicing.......
next on Why Voice?....follow here every Friday:)